Safeword – We Don’t Have One

“I accept it, if the sub wants a safeword. But a good sub knows that she/he shall not use it.” The second prompt for No True Way is this quote. Many in D/s relationships have safewords to ensure the safety, both physically and emotionally, of the submissive. NECESSITY OF A SAFEWORD Are safewords important? Absolutely. Are safewords used in all D/s relationships? Probably not. I think the use of a safeword will depend on your dynamic. Sir and I do not have a safeword because there isn’t much harm that can be done to me when we play. When you’re in a long distance relationship, a safeword doesn’t hold as much significance as most play isn’t done in person. Sir and I rely on direct communication. If something is too much for me, I have to be honest with him. It’s not a matter of saying something like, “violin,” to […]

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His Submissive – A Collar Around My Heart

I decided to participate in Lillith Avir’s new meme, No True Way. The first prompt is, “Whether worn or not, a collar is never off.” I think when you have a partner in a D/s relationship, whether the submissive has a physical collar or not, the behaviors/lifestyle should be reflected as though a physical collar is present. SUBMISSIVE FROM A DISTANCE In D/s relationships, collars are normally worn by the submissive to indicate their status in relationship to a Dominant. Essentially, collars are the wedding rings of D/s relationships. That being said, collars show that the submissive belongs to or is being considered by a Dominant. It is basically telling other Dominants to go find their own submissive haha. Being in a long distance relationship means that there is no collar. Even if I were to see Sir, it would probably only be for a day or night. The only […]

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