I decided to participate in Lillith Avir’s new meme, No True Way. The first prompt is, “Whether worn or not, a collar is never off.” I think when you have a partner in a D/s relationship, whether the submissive has a physical collar or not, the behaviors/lifestyle should be reflected as though a physical collar is present. SUBMISSIVE FROM A DISTANCE In D/s relationships, collars are normally worn by the submissive to indicate their status in relationship to a Dominant. Essentially, collars are the wedding rings of D/s relationships. That being said, collars show that the submissive belongs to or is being considered by a Dominant. It is basically telling other Dominants to go find their own submissive haha. Being in a long distance relationship means that there is no collar. Even if I were to see Sir, it would probably only be for a day or night. The only […]
Today marks six months with Sir. As I write this, I’m not in the best headspace (I’m writing this a couple days before the six month mark). I’ve been feeling rather lonely lately and to be honest, it’s pretty depressing. HOW WE MET For those who are new to my blog, I met Sir on a site called GetDare. It’s like a kink forum, but it’s more PG than FetLife. There’s no porn on GetDare. I first joined GetDare in 2013 when I was initially interested in kink. I guess Sir had joined around then too, but I didn’t meet him until six years later. In 2013, I had already formed an interest in girls and I labeled myself on the site as bi-curious. I still wasn’t quite sure of my sexuality. A girl asked me to be her slave and I was new to kink so it freaked me […]
A smile that hides the pain within the heart soothes the hearts of those who behold it. So smile even through difficult times. Mufti Menk 2020, the year in which things were supposed be quite amazing. As the year went on, more and more chaos erupted. This is not the year for doom and gloom. I had plans to travel. I even hoped that maybe I’d get to see Sir sometime this year. But it doesn’t look like that will happen this year. It’s been nearly 6 months with Sir. Next Sunday will actually mark 6 months since I became his sub. That’s 6 months without seeing someone I long to see. I don’t know why, but it feels as though he may be pushing me away. Maybe he is just busy, but it makes me sad and I really miss him. So when I smile, it’s rather half assed. […]
I long for him from miles away. It was never bound to be an ordinary relationship.