I had a bit of trouble thinking of anything to write about for 4 Thoughts or Fiction. You see, the topic is Kink vs. Fetish and I don’t know much about fetishes besides the fact that I’ve fallen into a category of one. Scottish Lass provides the following description of kinks and fetishes:
Kinks are defined as something sexually non-conventional whereas a fetish is the sexual gratification gained from an object, piece of clothing or body part.
I DON’T HAVE A FETISH, BUT I AM A FETISH
I’m aroused by people not objects or certain body parts. I’ve never had a fetish. While I’ve recently acquired a taste for lingerie, it’s not a fetish. Lingerie itself doesn’t arouse me, but the fantasies I have while wearing lingerie do.
However, I am a fetish. How? Well, every now and then, I talk about being Asian, more specifically Japanese.
I’ve never really understood the thrill in race play. To me it sounds like a bit of an excuse to be a racist. I’ll certainly speak to a man in Japanese while we’re having sex if that’s his fantasy, but reducing me down to a “dirty jap” in bed isn’t going to go down so well.
It’s not just race play that seems to be an issue, it’s fetishizing certain races. Many do not see it as a compliment, but more so creepy and racist.
I am an Asian woman and therefore have been made a fetish.
How Asian Fetishes Began
The history of the fetishization of Asian women began during WW2. Many do not know what happened to spark this fetish, but you’re about to learn.
During WW2, Japan basically turned Japanese women into sex slaves. They were forced into prostitution with the sole purpose of providing sexual service to U.S. soldiers. After the war ended, there was something called the “Recreation and Amusement Association.” Through this association Japanese women were still forced to serve foreign soldiers. This continued on through the Korean and Vietnam wars.
It created a stereotype that Asian women are subservient and pretty much open their legs on command.
What’s Wrong With An Asian Fetish?
An Asian fetish or really any fetish involving race, no longer sees us as individuals. It reduces us down to the stereotypical views about our race.
Now, I have no problem with those who like Asian women. Go ahead…I mean I need some loving too, but when the stereotypes are at the forefront of your desire for an Asian woman, then you need to rethink this attraction.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller states, “Kinks and fetishes are only considered problems when (1) one fulfills their desires by engaging in non-consensual behaviors, (2) when they pose an unacceptable level of risk or harm to the self or to others, and/or (3) they cause severe psychological distress or impairment.”
Now this may be just subjective thinking on my part, but couldn’t Asian fetishism be considered a problem? The way I see it is that sometimes, there is non-consensual behaviors toward women of Asian descent. It can also lead to hostile and potentially emotionally abusive environments.
So like all the Asian women you want, but remember that we’re all different and cannot be lumped into a stereotype. Not all Asian women will be submissive docile.
BUT SUBMISSION IS ONE OF MY KINKS
Is submission really a kink? To the more vanilla world, it certainly is. My submission is not just sexually; submissiveness is just a part of who I am.
Does this feed into the Asian fetish? I sometimes wonder about this. But I can’t change who I am and I couldn’t be dominant even if I wanted to. To me, submission is not just a kink; it’s a part of what makes me…well, me.
I need to please others. While yes, I can be a brat at times especially when there’s a bit of an age gap between my partner and I, there is still a desire to be that good little obedient girl. I’m sorry if that adds to the stereotype that many Asian women are stuck with.
CL likes to see lingerie and boobs so I find myself taking more photos like this to show him. Pleasing him is something that is pleasurable for me. I guess that’s the submissive nature in me. Thankfully, he doesn’t fetishize my culture, though, maybe he does so with my boobs haha.
How Does Submission Tie Into My Kinks?
Just because submission isn’t just a kink to me doesn’t mean it doesn’t influence other kinks. Some of the kinks that I’m into are degradation, humiliation, and bondage.
With each, there is a bit of power play involved. Degradation and humiliation are inflicted on me by someone more dominant than I am. What this could look like is stripping me of my clothing and making me remain naked in their presence. Or with bondage, I’m being tied up. I’m naked, bound, and helpless. Essentially, the person has taken away my control.
But this is what I enjoy. It’s what arouses me. They’re my kinks, but that shouldn’t make me or those that look like me a fetish.