“She’s my best friend, and I’m hers. Nothing needs to change between us.” He was afraid, not because he thought she wasn’t the one. He was terrified, because he knew she was.” – Mirella Muffarotto
This week’s prompt for LittleSwitchBitch’s Quote Quest is this quote by Jim Morrison:
“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself- and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.” -Jim Morrison
Sometimes lover says I’m a friend and other times, he indirectly says I’m his girlfriend. I’m not exactly sure where we stand, but he’s my lover and he’s also become my best friend.
BEFORE BEING MY BEST FRIEND
We didn’t grow up together with an unspoken yearning for each other. It wasn’t even a matter of being friends before lovers. Lover and I were physically intimate before we became emotionally intimate. We kissed and had sex before we even had a conversation out loud.
Normally, guys on Tinder are a one and done or we have sex a few times then never speak again. It was different with lover. Our first conversations on Tinder and via text weren’t about sex. We talked about writing, history, and culture. I shared my poetry with him and he really liked it.
We had sex the first time we met. It was the first thing we did. We didn’t go out to eat or grab a coffee first. No, we went straight to the raunchy stuff then the romance came later. I thought this meant that after the first time, he’d ghost me, but kept wanting to see me and I kept wanting to see him. There’s no shortage of sex in our relationship.
BECOMING MY BEST FRIEND
But sex doesn’t necessarily mean someone is my best friend. It’s more so about trust and that person showing up for you when you need them. A best friend is someone who will love you despite your flaws and still accept you even if they don’t necessarily agree with you.
Lover is honest with me when we talk. He’s not afraid to hide his views on the world. Yes, he even brings up politics when we’re cuddling in bed. How’s that for pillow talk? Sometimes, we agree and sometimes, we don’t agree, but it doesn’t mean that we think any less of each other.
When things are not going well, I tell him. There’s been several issues with family over the past few months and I’ve had to confide in lover. It’s the same with him; sometimes, his ex makes his day a living hell and he’ll tell me that he’s upset. When you don’t have to hide in front of your lover, I think that’s when they start to become your best friend.
LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP MINGLE BETWEEN THE SHEETS
Best friend and lover…I think it’s a powerful combo. The trust forged through friendship mixed with being in love forges an unforgettable bond.
When I was to just be myself in front of him, the sex just got better. Maybe, it’s because there was love mixed in. There was greater passion and a deeper longing for each other. Each touch was all the more sensual and every glance was all the more meaningful and loving.
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