“Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst, be that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything, be that independent girl who didn’t need a man; be that girl who never backed down.” – Taylor Swift
*Content warning: the following post talks about rape, abuse, and murder. If you are underage or sensitive to these topics, I would suggest not reading this post.
INDEPENDENT AND FREE
July’s theme for the Fun Theme Photo Meme is Independence. I had a photo in a blue bralette and leather pants and I really like it in color. However, as a woman who is a rape and abuse survivor, I’ve made the photo black and white.
There is currently a challenge going on that calls for women to post black and white selfies on Instagram with the hashtags #challengeaccepted and #womensupportingwomen. It seems that the purpose of the challenge has gotten lost in the fact that many are just posting their “hot” selfies to jump on a bandwagon.
I am an independent and free woman so I can post such things without fear of any real consequence.
INDEPENDENCE FOR WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD
Many women around the world do not have the same independence that women in western countries have. Outrage started due to the death of Pınar Gültekin. She was killed by her ex-boyfriend who has now been arrested.
Unfortunately, many women are often abused and killed by the hands of their own partners. According to the World Health Organization, “Femicide is generally understood to involve intentional murder of women because they are women, but broader definitions include any killings of women or girls.” This could look like honor killings, dowry related murder, intimate and non-intimate femicide.
While rape, abuse and murder of women occurs everywhere in the world, in parts of the world like Turkey, it seems to have been normalized. Often times, men get away with these heinous crimes because women are seen as property. Women have no rights in many parts of the world.
INDEPENDENT FROM MY PAST
I have previously written about my experience with rape and abuse. It’s a nightmare that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I’m quite fortunate to have been able to get out, but many women don’t have that same luxury.
With lockdowns currently in place, it can be even harder for women to get out of these situations. This will likely lead to an increase of femicide around the world. Women will be battered and killed and it is an issue that has gone on for far too long.
I may be a submissive woman, but I am still an independent and free woman. My past may include being abused and raped by someone who was supposed to love me, but I am independent and free from that past.
I encourage everyone to read more about about what’s going on in Turkey and to sign the petition on change.org. It is my hope that one day, we will live in a world in which all people are truly free and independent and share equal rights and liberties.
The Sassy Sub Daily