Independent and Fearless

“Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst, be that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything, be that independent girl who didn’t need a man; be that girl who never backed down.” – Taylor Swift

*Content warning: the following post talks about rape, abuse, and murder. If you are underage or sensitive to these topics, I would suggest not reading this post.

INDEPENDENT AND FREE

July’s theme for the Fun Theme Photo Meme is Independence. I had a photo in a blue bralette and leather pants and I really like it in color. However, as a woman who is a rape and abuse survivor, I’ve made the photo black and white.

There is currently a challenge going on that calls for women to post black and white selfies on Instagram with the hashtags #challengeaccepted and #womensupportingwomen. It seems that the purpose of the challenge has gotten lost in the fact that many are just posting their “hot” selfies to jump on a bandwagon.

I am an independent and free woman so I can post such things without fear of any real consequence.

INDEPENDENCE FOR WOMEN AROUND THE WORLD

Many women around the world do not have the same independence that women in western countries have. Outrage started due to the death of Pınar Gültekin. She was killed by her ex-boyfriend who has now been arrested.

Unfortunately, many women are often abused and killed by the hands of their own partners. According to the World Health Organization, “Femicide is generally understood to involve intentional murder of women because they are women, but broader definitions include any killings of women or girls.” This could look like honor killings, dowry related murder, intimate and non-intimate femicide.

While rape, abuse and murder of women occurs everywhere in the world, in parts of the world like Turkey, it seems to have been normalized. Often times, men get away with these heinous crimes because women are seen as property. Women have no rights in many parts of the world.

INDEPENDENT FROM MY PAST

I have previously written about my experience with rape and abuse. It’s a nightmare that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I’m quite fortunate to have been able to get out, but many women don’t have that same luxury.

With lockdowns currently in place, it can be even harder for women to get out of these situations. This will likely lead to an increase of femicide around the world. Women will be battered and killed and it is an issue that has gone on for far too long.

I may be a submissive woman, but I am still an independent and free woman. My past may include being abused and raped by someone who was supposed to love me, but I am independent and free from that past.

I encourage everyone to read more about about what’s going on in Turkey and to sign the petition on change.org. It is my hope that one day, we will live in a world in which all people are truly free and independent and share equal rights and liberties.

Yours Truly,
The Sassy Sub Daily

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9 Comments

  1. It’s terrible what’s happening in other nations! I agree it is normalized there. Even scarier is it’s beginning to become normalized here. Thank you for giving a voice to the voiceless and bringing awareness🙏🏼 prayers for your continued healing and growth.

    1. It’s sad. Violence against women is hardly ever met with due justice. Men who rape women get off easily. Yet a woman who killed her rapist and captor to get away and in self-defense receives a judgment of way too many years in prison. Sometimes, I feel as though our world is going backwards.

    1. Thank you. It’s terrible to see everything that’s going on in the world. It was going on before, but with quarantine, it seems to have made many problems even worse.

  2. It is interesting that in the whole debate going on in the West right now, about gender and different definitions, that many tend to forget the struggles that happen still worldwide to women where sex and gender differences are very binary. I am a survivor as well, and I have grown up in a Muslim culture, so I am well aware of the fact that women are very much second class citizens in that part of the world.
    Thank you for speaking up about this. I am glad that you were able to get away from the terrors you had to endure <3

    1. I think Muslim cultures can really put things in perspective. While things may seem bad here, it will never compare to the atrocities seen in Muslim cultures. Even though I’ve experienced horrors, I won’t even begin to pretend that it is on the same level. A family would not get away with honor killings over here and that’s something to be grateful for.

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