I decided to participate in Lillith Avir’s new meme, No True Way. The first prompt is, “Whether worn or not, a collar is never off.” I think when you have a partner in a D/s relationship, whether the submissive has a physical collar or not, the behaviors/lifestyle should be reflected as though a physical collar is present.
SUBMISSIVE FROM A DISTANCE
In D/s relationships, collars are normally worn by the submissive to indicate their status in relationship to a Dominant. Essentially, collars are the wedding rings of D/s relationships. That being said, collars show that the submissive belongs to or is being considered by a Dominant. It is basically telling other Dominants to go find their own submissive haha.
Being in a long distance relationship means that there is no collar. Even if I were to see Sir, it would probably only be for a day or night.
The only way he’d be able to collar me at the moment is to send me a collar via mail and international shipping is not budget friendly. Officially collaring a sub in a long distance relationship seems like a lot of hassle so I don’t wear a physical collar.
NO COLLAR, NO PROBLEM
I don’t think a physical collar is needed. It’s just a symbol. Taking off a wedding ring doesn’t mean you’re not married (unless you took it off after a divorce or you became widowed).
Submissiveness is a mindset. It’s a way of life. My submission to Sir isn’t bound by the use of collars.
I may not strut outside the house sporting a collar, but I am still his submissive. However, I think the lack of a collar requires more trust on the Dominant’s part. The Dominant has to trust the submissive in their interactions with others.
I am devoted to Sir, with or without a collar. Sir has a strong hold over me and even without a physical collar, I know that I belong to him. And I’m sassy enough to tell off anyone who tries to undermine my relationship with Sir.
Whether worn or not, a collar is never off. Why? Because the collar I wear is the one around my heart.
The Sassy Sub Daily
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