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Discipline From A Distance

Discipline. I guess in a long distance relationship it’s a bit harder to enforce. I haven’t experienced it full throttle so it’s a bit difficult for me to write about. Sir has given me tasks to do, but in the end it was for my pleasure. He doesn’t deny me, but it’s probably because I only get to squirt once every 2-4 weeks when we play. And he also knows how hard it is for me to orgasm.


For Sir and I, it’s not so much of a daily thing. Sir is very busy.

When I first became his sub, Sir had me get Ben Wa Balls. He had me insert them and do squats while I was naked. Well, they fell out. Sir laughed and told me that since I couldn’t keep them in, I had to wear them to work the next day.

Toward the beginning, I would also ask him if I could wear panties. Most of the time he would say no so now, I hardly ever wear panties.


To most, I am a brat, but to Sir, I am very submissive. I want to please him. It doesn’t take much to obey him.

I went from masturbating daily to only when Sir plays with me and tell me to touch myself. It used to be more frequently when Sir would have me touch myself, but now I go weeks without it. I also don’t squirt unless Sir gives me permission.

I think in a way getting to this point involved discipline. It probably looks different from everyone’s relationship. I guess it could also look like having to learn that Sir cannot be available for me 24/7. Like I said at the beginning Sir is a very busy man. I am needy, but maybe most submissive girls are compared girls in vanilla relationships. I think the distance in itself feels like discipline because it means that I had to grow in patience and I can’t be as clingy. Sir is sure to reiterate that I need to give others space sometimes. Discipline is about development so I guess, in a sense, maybe a bit of non-traditional discipline has been embedded all along.

I’m sure others have much more insight on discipline. I could write a fantasy about it, but I don’t have too many firsthand encounters with it.

Yours Truly

The Sassy Sub Daily

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sass c.

i'm just your average girl with a dirty mind. young, asian and submissive...does that pique your interest? constantly in a battle with myself whether to stay confined by my cultural values or to break free like the freak i am.

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  1. I think discipline conditions us to do specific things, also because we want to it for them 🙂
    Nice post!
    ~ Marie

    1. Yes, Sir has certainly conditioned me to do specific things for him…some things on hold at the moment due to the current state of the world.

  2. I like the fact that control is very evident and that it is something you continue to look for. Hopefully there’s is more in store when this curtain lifts.

    1. Hopefully one day. If the world was less chaotic, I’m sure he’d find more ways to control different parts of my day. It feels like a lifetime ago, though it’s only been a few months of these darker days.

  3. I think you are right in that there are lots of ways that discipline features in a D/s relationship so it is not just about the punishment side 😊

    1. Punishments make their way into my fantasies, but in reality, I feel like I wouldn’t be able to break rules. I’ve always been the sort of person that follows the rules and if I see someone doing something wrong, I’ll say, “That’s illegal.” Haha.

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