Something that I learned even before I lost of virginity is that women tend to get more attached than men after sex. When women have sex, they release oxytocin which is the same hormone released when a mother bonds with her baby/child. It’s the cuddle hormone. However, men tend to see decreased levels of dopamine. This can explain why he may seem to space out after sex. It’s causing him to withdraw a bit and it’s probably why it’s easier for a man to leave a woman he’s hooked up with in the middle of the night.
While that may be what is normally seen, it doesn’t necessarily mean it will be the same for every woman or every man. I am the kind of girl who doesn’t exactly get attached after sex. Maybe it’s because I’ve never orgasmed during sex so maybe just maybe, there wasn’t a high level of oxytocin released. Or maybe it’s due to the fact that I am demisexual. Being demisexual may also be the reason I’ve never orgasmed. Demisexual means that you don’t experience sexual attraction unless a strong emotional connection is formed with someone.
I am rather guarded so forming a strong emotional connection is a bit difficult. I’m not the most trusting person out there. I don’t make new friends easily. There are a few that I keep close to me, but my friend circle stays relatively small. Even then, I still manage to get hurt by some of these friends. Being this way has made dating a rough experience. I can talk to a man about everything except for me. I don’t want to let them in. I don’t trust them with my secrets. I don’t want them to get too close to me because that’s how you get hurt.
I don’t have a boyfriend. I have a Dom. I haven’t had sex with him, but I’ve grown pretty attached. It’s because I was able to form an emotional connection with him. Maybe it’s because in a D/s relationship, the devotion and dependence a submissive has toward their Dominant is rather strong. I know that I have a strong desire to serve and please him. With other Dominants, I didn’t feel that desire so much. Maybe that’s due to the fact that other Dominants weren’t smart enough to keep up with me or stimulate my mind.
Needless to say, I depend on my Dom. I don’t quite know what I’d do without him. Physically, I could survive because depending on someone for financial needs has never been my thing. Emotionally, I need him daily.
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